Marriage is a not a race
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I write this out of frustration. I am annoyed when people ask me when I’d marry, especially people from church. They are the ones who are obsessed about it.
I am only 23 freaking years old. I am not in a hurry. I am not even looking around for someone.
I still have a lot of plans. I want to travel more. I want to study abroad. I want to go to Europe. I want to make a documentary. I might go to law school.
You see, when you get married, you can’t go anywhere as you please. Every decision has to be a compromise, and I don’t want to compromise. At least not now.
I know myself better than anyone. I know that when I fall, I fall hard, and I get distracted. I know I would give in.
I believe in marriage. I believe in sacrifice. I believe in love that lasts through eternity. I want to have kids, lots of them.
But does anyone have to hurry? It’s not a race. There’s no reason to be anxious about it, even as life adds a year to your age.
Besides, can you imagine me getting hooked at this point? I might end up feeding my children with pizza and Coke and have a party.
Okay, I am kidding; I might change when I get there. But I really am not over with nightouts and sleepovers. I am not over exploring the world.
I plan to marry at 30. Any problem with that?
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but that’s seven years away! what will i be doing in the meantime?
hahahaha
build a guillotine, remember?
im 26 and im an r.m.:) i can assure you i get asked with the same question more than you do. heheh.. just smile, aileen. just smile
oo nga naman. lalaki ka pa. lol.
Sometimes, if I’m in the mood, I’ll take the time and explain to them that marriage is a decision involving two persons and that I can’t decide on it alone. How can I get married if I don’t even have a… Hahahah!.. (Yeah, I explain that with some sarcasm at times).
When I’m not in the mood, I just smile. They’d have to wait when I get in the mood again
wow. ang bait mo pala. you smile when you’re not in the mood?
ako i avoid them. hehe.
or you could try the jester-in-exile anti-marriage-question alibi (patent pending) — i’m too unattractive, too poor, and too busy.
no, waitaminute, you can’t. hahaha.
i won’t. because that is not true to me.
Okay, here’s a confession: I smile, yes, but i do it with some sarcasm as well.
So generally, whether I’m in the mood or not, I’m sarcastic most of the time.
Does that sound like mabait to you? Heheheh…
well at least di ka nangangaway.
btw, marami akong ka-ward dito. gusto mo ipakilala kita? (nambenta ba. haha.)
Sige. Mo-anha ko ugma! :))
haha. marunong ka pala mag-bisaya?
Oo eh!
Duha ka tuig gud ko sa Davao 
davao mission diay ka? what year? i had schoolmates who were assigned there.
2002-2004.
do you know moroni babia? or do you know anyone from UP Diliman?
I’m not really sure
regards daw choy-choy Len…bagay mo…hwahwahwa
@markus
it’s okay. i didnt expect you to know him anyway. andami nyo kaya sa field.
@jonathan
kadiri ka.
wow. some of my friends (back in high school and some college batches) are also joining the bandwagon. andame na lang nila. handame.
when i’m asked the same question, i just give a wry smile. and then wink. parang “peke mo ba? i know i’m gwapo. ganyan” hahaha.
buti na lang wala pa sa batch natin no? kasi i have a theory na kung may magsisimula, sunod-sunod na yan. sana wala naman.
yung ibang friends ko dito, college pa nagbubuntisan na daw sila. buti naman sa atin wala. naalala ko dati konti nga lang may lablayp sa atin eh. sadya bang tigang ang journ people?
true true! i always got annoyed when people used to ask me that. i planned to wed at 30 too, but wed at 27 instead. the questions don’t stop there. now tha main quesyion we always get is “when will you have a baby?” arrrgh! it never stops!
um, i’m guilty of asking that question. maybe i should stop.